Choosing A Stand




The alarming rate of premarital sex, fornication and adultery has eaten deep into every other nation’s fabric and needs much to be desired.

Sex has become one of the major tools used by the devil and his demons to cause destruction to the church and individuals.

A world now saturated with sex is now called the computer age or information age to justify our actions. If i am to describe the era we are in, my most accurate description would be the era or age of sex. Oh yes. Unlike the olden days, this generation i would say is so obsessed with sex regardless of its awareness.  And this has given the devil the chance to take hold of it. That you see sex everywhere; in books, telly, classrooms among others.


Not only has sexual contents been blatantly displayed but almost all other object has one way or the other been linked to something related to sex. Something that only brings the wrong thoughts to you.

Is this the way sexuality should be treated? No wonder the devil has taken due advantage and is using our lack of directions and guidelines to cost us dearly in major areas such as our marriage, health, finances, sexual fulfillment, happiness, among others.

Not many understand the purpose of sex. Many also assume that anything goes as long as it occurs between consenting adults. But i stand to declare this approach is naive and wrong. And has become an unsubstantiated assumption that avoids candidly addressing related questions with regards to sex, marriage and its origin.


The simple and often overlooked answer is that, God created marriage and sex. With His reasons nothing short of the word wonderful. Ignorance of Gods purpose for sex is what has been the devils weapon for bringing about enormous problems.

It is wrong to have sex before marriage (fornication) and also outside marriage (adultery). Its totally against the word of God. It causes more harm to us than we know.

People give all sort of reasons for having sex before marriage and outside marriage. Thinking they are justified but no way. They aren’t.  No matter what the reason may be, whether they love each other,are going to get married someday, because it feels good or everyone else is doing it, its still wrong and a sin before God.


They defile themselves.  Their  sanctity is destroyed.
They become unclean and impure. In other words, they become contaminated. It also creates a gap between us and God. Our self confidence before God decreases because of our conscience. And If we violate our conscience long enough, we can get to the point where we no longer even care about it. Making it seems our conscience is dead. Our spiritual doors are also opened which gives evil spirits access to cause destruction in our lives.



One way Satan leads you to sex is by means of Lust. Lust is Satan’s biggest and greatest tool to destroy you.

It overtakes your soul (reasoning or thinking, emotions, attitude etc.) with no rationale behind it. It takes over your mind,regardless of your marital status. He knows that if he can get your mind, then its just a matter of time to get you into sin.

Moreover, He also uses other devices like porn to get your attention and lead you into sin.  Porn can be very addictive. And believe me, you can be married and think watching porn is okay but you only begin to walk on the road of destruction.

Lust, watching porn, masturbating among others emerges you with demonic spiritual partners. And these things lead you to start experiencing level 1 of hell here on earth.


Stay away from sex. Do it rightly, with the right person and at the right time. And you will have nothing better than experiencing the love of God and that of your partner. Always remember to build your relationship on friendship with Jesus being the center of it all.

For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. – 1 John 2: 16 ESV
For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. – Romans 8:6 ESV

Always remembering, its better to marry than to burn with passion.

Further Studies:

1 Corinthians 7 (NIV)

Concerning Married Life and Sex

7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”  But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.

Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry,for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.


12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord):If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Concerning Change of Status – Why Not Sexing Is Possible

17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised.

19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts. 20 Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.

21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so.22 For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings. 24 Brothers and sisters, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.

Concerning the Unmarried – Yes, There Are True, Proud Virgins

25 Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26 Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27 Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife.28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

29 What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not; 30 those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31 those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.

So What To Do About Sex – Married and Unmarried

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong[b] and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38 So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.[c]

39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 40 In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

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Updated: November 11, 2017 — 9:40 pm


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  1. Vicky, That’s a wonderful post you’ve got here. Actually, i have been looking for detailed explanation on this topic and i was directed here somehow.I especially liked the further studies which takes us straight to the word of God.
    God bless you.
    Hope you keep writing such wonderful posts in the future

    1. Hello Andrews. Good to know you enjoyed the post. And am also happy to know that not only did you enjoy it but you also found it helpful. Feel free to also look through the other post. Might be of help in a way lol.Thanks once again for passing by

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